Such a boring topic, I know. (really, I do.) Thank you to all the people who viewed my last post. I can’t see who you are, but I appreciate every single one of you.
For those who have not seen my last post about my 16th birthday, you can either scroll all the way down or you can just click right here . (For those who are on laptop).
Below is partly what I see in my blog stats. I can only see where you’re from, and not who you are (so you’re safe, yes) but I wish I could 😦
But on a serious note, I really want this blog to be a place where I can share my thoughts, feelings and any life lessons that I’ve learned throughout my whole 16 years. Thus, boring blog posts about life (like this post) are inevitable.
Now that that’s clear, Let’s begin!
Lessons I’ve learned.
1. ALWAYS give yourself time to see the bigger picture when problems arise.
Whenever something bad happens, I always get too overwhelmed with emotions, sometimes to the point where I just isolate myself completely.
During that time, I always try to force myself to see the bigger picture as quickly as I can, because I learned that I might only be seeing the present situation as it is, and not how this problem is going to help me grow as a person.
But this isn’t the right way.
Things may seem rough at that point. You may feel extremely stressed and frustrated, but something you can do from there is :
1) Forgive yourself.
2) Give yourself time.
Don’t beat yourself up for it, be it a mistake you made that caused the problem or just something that happened unexpectedly, always forgive yourself. Sometimes when things don’t go your way, it may turn out to be the best experience for you to grow from 🙂
Here’s another thing I learned :
– When things fall apart by Pema Chodron
” If we run a hundred miles an hour to the other end of the continent in order to get rid of the obstacle, we find the very same problem waiting for us when we arrive. It just keeps returning with new names, new forms, new manifestations until we learn whatever it has to teach us. ” – Pema Chodron
You may not be able to get rid of the problem immediately, but at the end of all these, you’ll always have something to learn from the experience.
What can we learn from bad experiences ? Lots! Here’s some of them.
Anything that annoys you is teaching you patience.
Anyone who abandons you is teaching you how to stand up on your own two feet.
Anything that angers you is teaching you forgiveness and compassion.
Anything that has power over you is teaching you how to take your power back.
Anything you hate is teaching you unconditional love.
Anything you fear is teaching you courage to overcome your fear.
Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go. – Jackson Kiddard
In other words, something that you can take away from this lesson is this:
2. Always be kind.
Yes, be kind! Even to unkind people, because THEY need it the most 🙂
We tend to be kind only to those who are kind to us, and find it difficult to be kind to those that are mean to us. It may seem like being unkind in return seems a lot easier.
But most of the time, the people that are unkind were once really nice people. Maybe they got pushed over too far once or were taken for granted too many times.
Maybe they are dealing with too much anger in their heart.
Maybe they don’t want to appear weak or vulnerable.
But sometimes, people are mean not because they are against you, but because it’s their only mechanism to cope, a way of protecting themselves from getting hurt.
The biggest tragedy of all is when they are the ones who decide that they are unworthy of the love and kindness you offer.
Thus, their heart is guarded – they stop being kind.
And most of the time,it's not even their fault.
Kind words don’t cost much, yet they accomplish so much. Besides, you would feel good about yourself too, if you are kind to everyone around you :]
Here are 2 quotes for you to take away from this :
” In a world where you could be anything, choose to be kind. ”
” It takes so much courage to face your enemy, but even more to be kind to those who hurt you. “
But hey, don’t get me wrong! Be kind, but don’t get pushed over.
Be kind until you feel that your boundaries are being pushed. Know your limits and remember that you can be kind and still say “No.”
3. You are NOT going to be everyone’s cup of tea – and that’s okay.
My whole life was revolved around trying to please EVERYONE around me. I made sure that I did nothing wrong to make anyone angry or annoyed, because having the thought of someone disliking me tore me apart.
My self-worth was always dependant on the approval of others, and I felt inferior.
I tried to apologise to the people who didn’t like me and told them that I was sorry for anything I did that made them angry or displeased.
I was living for their acceptance.
But I realised that no matter what I do,
there will always be people pointing out my mistakes and my flaws.
There will always be people who dislike me, for being me.
What I had to do wasn't to keep apologising - All I had to do was let it go.
So, if you ever meet someone who dislikes you, just politely wave them on and continue along your way.
This whole experience was trying to teach me one thing which I turn my blind eye to. It was to realise that I’m just me, and I have to learn to be okay with the fact that not everybody is going to like me for who I am.
Here’s something you can take away from my experience :
You can’t force people to like you for who you are, but you can’t let that stop you from living.
In this world, there are more than just the people who don’t like you. There are others who will love you fiercely for who you are, unconditionally.
You’re not going to be for everyone, and that’s really okay 🙂
WARNING : LONG NOTE AHEAD !
I will stop here for now 🙂 I’m surprised you haven’t left. Thank you for staying till the end. This post took 4 days to draft out and I’m so glad you read it all.
This isn’t all there is to this topic, I still have so much more to share with you. If you actually want a next part to this, let me know, okay ? I’ll gladly write it for you.
Once again, thank you so much for being here. It means a lot to me, even if I don’t know who you are. I want all my viewers to have the best experience here, which is why I spend so much time trying to find the most appropriate pictures, the most fitting quotes, and do hours of research on the topic that I’m writing about.
Do let me know if you actually read my blog, I would love to know what are your thoughts on it!
Other than that, I hope you have a great day.
I’ll see you all in the next post 🙂
Chalic.e 